According to many media sites teens are leaving their prior social application of choice, Facebook, and signing up to Twitter, with the possible result of changing the face of their new networking site. Proof that the micro blogging site is undergoing a certain amount of evolutionary change is apparent from reading the news or Twitter.
While the world reacted in outrage at the Turkish government shutting Twitter down, the website closed down a naughty underage teen account in the U.S. The account, @LIPartyStories, infuriated and shocked parents as the youth of Long Island posted pictures of themselves partying down. The underage kids were seen drinking, drunk, “touching each other intimately” and seminaked.
I find myself hopping back on my soapbox this morning so I can pontificate about blogging and comments. Well, specifically about comments left on blogs and a sort of code of etiquette. A long time ago, in a land far away, I had another blogging site (I actually still do, as apparently you can be inactive on the site for a millennium and still keep the account) and I had a blog I followed quite religiously.
I got in the habit of leaving “semi” long comments. The lovely lady who owned the blog I was commenting on sent me a “sharp” rebuke for being too wordy. My response at receiving this email of displeasure was two-fold.
I was upset that I was breaking some sort of comment etiquette and irritated that she did not want my input after inviting people to comment on her blog. After a bit of thoughtful deliberation and a conference with my daughter (who’d been blogging much longer than I had) I stopped following the lady’s blog and dropped her from my email contact list.
A short while later, I got an email from her (in my spam bin) saying that she was sorry. She told me she was wrong about my comments being too long and she missed my feedback. By then, unfortunately, I’d moved house and was living in another blogging site, WordPress. I never bothered following her blog again, as I don’t ever visit that particular blogging site since my move.
But as time has gone by and my experience grows on blogging and the interaction it requires, I can see her point. I also read a great blog post from Marilyn over at Serendipity a while back where she posted about inconsiderate commenters. By the way, if you have not had the extreme pleasure of reading this fascinating lady’s Blog just click HERE. You will not regret stopping by.
I decided that as a “not-so-regular” commenter on other people’s blogs (I have a hard time fitting in reading and liking them) and the fact that I have a lot of folks who do leave comments on mine, that perhaps a short list of don’ts might not hurt. It might save you that cringe worthy moment when the blog owner that feels like you are “taking the Mickey” with your comment and upbraids you on it. *Taking the Mickey is an English phrase for making fun of or being tacky towards someone or taking liberties.*
1) Don’t leave an entire page worth of comment. Most blogger don’t appreciate your version of a comment that resembles Gone with the Wind. Keep it short, but if you want to engage more fully, send an email to their contact email address.
2) Don’t link back to your blog site. Nothing is more offensive to a blogger than if you use the comment section to advertise your blog post. Social media is for self promotion, not someone else’s blog comment section.
3) Don’t argue with other commenters on the post. It’s cool to interact (that’s why we blog) but do not get into a protracted war over an issue. I once had two people carry out a full paged campaign on a blog post I’d written. Don’t do it.
4) Play nice. This really could be an addendum to 3). If you disagree with someone, just say so and try to make your point as succinctly as possible. Don’t get tacky. It’s not appreciated and can result in getting you blocked.
5) Don’t NAG. This, along with the GWTW type comments are my pet peeve. If you don’t know what constitutes nagging, here’s a clue. If you leave repeated messages (comments) talking about the same things? It is NAGGING. Stop it.
6) Don’t be negative. Constructive criticism is always appreciated.
7) – This is the last one, I promise – DO feel free to express yourself and commit to your comment. Remember, other people are reading what you have left on someone else’s blog post, if you do it “right” they will follow you back to your blog. It is a great way to self-advertise without being offensive.
So that’s it. The MikesFilmTalk’s Comment Etiquette Guide. I would like to point out that this post is not “aimed” at anyone in particular. I had the idea for this post while pondering a response that someone left on another blog site. It made me think of my cringe worthy moment over two years ago, when I got diarrhoea of the keyboard.
We all love to interact with each other in the blogging world, let’s just try to do it politely and positively.
So how about you? What sort of comments can you do without or make you see red? Do you have any commenting etiquette that you think should be followed?
Let me know, but to paraphrase Captain Spaulding in The House of a 1000 Corpses, “Don’t go all Margaret Mitchell on my ass.”
- Blogging Part 2: Editing Your Own Blog Post (mikesfilmtalk.com)
- Taking care of Comments on Your Blog (hornbranch69.wordpress.com)
- 5 Blogging Etiquette Tips for Beginning Bloggers – Tips & instructions for beginning and intermediate bloggers. (krk62.wordpress.com)
- Etiquettes with Blogging (thehunni.wordpress.com)
- Blog Following Etiquette (johnbalaya.wordpress.com)
- So What Should We Be Asking Bloggers? (seomoz.org)
- Blog Etiquette (itfd.wordpress.com)
- Introduction (essenceofeleanor.wordpress.com)
- Short Rules of Blogging Etiquette (gentlereformation.org)
- Miss Peg-o-Leg’s Bloggy Guide To Excruciatingly Correct Comment Etiquette (pegoleg.com)
Call me cynical but it seems to me that the blogging world has become the last bastion of the entrepreneurial individual who is scrambling to make a success of his or her new business.
I could be wrong, but I don’t think so.
Just look at Twitter — another haven for the entrepreneur — just look at how many tweets are dedicated to “making more money with your blog” and “how to drive more customers to your blog-site. Go ahead, I’ll wait. I want to see if I’m exaggerating or not.
Back so soon?
You’ll have noticed, that Twitter is full of these helpful tweets. I know I noticed and it made me question why folks blog.
I know why I do.
I think I know why a lot of folks whose blogs I follow do. But you only have to look at your spam list to see that there are a lot of folks in the blogging verse who are trying to make money.
I don’t blame them. I was interested when I first started blogging, that on the blogger.com site that I first used, I saw that you could put adverts on your blog and get some pennies from the advertisers. I even tried to monetize my site.
Unfortunately, unless you live within the shores of the US continent, you cannot monetize your account. I was a bit nonplussed. It did not (and still doesn’t) seem very fair. Most of my blogging audience reside in the US. I have a great spread over the rest of the world, but the good ol’ USA always comes first in terms of “readership.”
I suppose I am a little bitter about not being able to make a little change off my blogging. Not enough to really complain though. Just a little grousing to let the world know how I feel about it.
And of course that’s the crux of the matter. I blog so I can let the world know how I feel about things.
Whether it’s about the latest film I’ve seen or the horror of the Dark Knight shootings. I want to get my two penneth worth out there for folks to see. Not because I think I’m clever enough or sage enough to make a difference one way or the other, but because I can.
I’ve always been able to put two words together in a sentence and not sound too idiotic. This makes me a communicator. Not necessarily a great one, but a communicator nonetheless.
Because I have this ability, I like to communicate. Of course it helps the whole process when someone comments on something you’ve written. Even if it’s to (intelligently) disagree. I’m also pleased if someone takes a split-second to ‘like’ what I’ve written.
This all makes it seem more like communication. Without feedback for your real (or imagined) audience your blog starts to feel a little like you’re standing on a street corner wearing a placard that says “The end is nigh” and you are shouting to a unlistening, uncaring public.
So while I’m not blogging for monetary recompense aka dough, I am blogging for reward of a different nature.
The reward of knowing that somebody out there is listening and I can leave my placard at home.
- How to Succeed in Blogging (iamavirtualassistant.wordpress.com)
- On Personal Blogging (myextendedyouth.wordpress.com)
- Tips on Increasing your Blog Readers and Comments (blogelina.com)
- Suzy Menkes Likes Fashion Blogs, Doesn’t Have Time To Tweet (fabsugar.com)